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There is much hostility, fear, hatred, unsettledness, worry, and anxiety going on today. Just turn on the news. Sadly, I see hatred...

Did you know that Neuroscience confirms the benefit of gratitude? This simple yet powerful daily practice can rewire those negative,...

Most survivors of sexual trauma need and benefit from therapy. I sure did.  I wait and hear their story before I refer. I ask a few...

Certain sayings such as, “What were you wearing?” or “Well, you went out and drank with him?” places blame on the victim.   Abuse has no...

Have you ever shared something so painful only to have the person throw a scripture at you?   I love God deeply and his Word. There is a...

For the month of June, I will blog on how to accompany a survivor of sexual trauma.  Many have told me the hurtful things people say and...

Few people really know or understand the depth of pain and life-torn journey a victim takes to heal from abuse.  Nor do they appreciate...

As a survivor of sexual abuse, I have come to realize the importance of giving sacred space and time for grief work. As a man, I can look...

Rediscover and Love Yourself The abuse happened in the Republic of Congo. But it followed me across the globe.   I was starting College....

I was 20 years old. I just moved out into my own apartment. I had my own checking account and a car. I felt so proud of myself for being...

For the month of May, I will share true stories from my fellow survivors with their permission. First, Let’s start with Tamar’s Story...

Our bodies are a wealth of information.  Our body signals us when something is right and when something is wrong.  Although I have...

My psychologist told me I had trust issues, especially with those in authority.  She told me that I struggled with trusting my own...

4/12/2025 Shame is like a cancer to the soul. Shame robs us of our worth as the beloved and our intimate relationship with God.  It lies...

You are Not Alone! Did you know that one in three women and one in six men will experience some kind of sexual assault in their...

I plan to start a new Not Alone Group in April.  I have a few committed and hope to have a few more. There is no doubt in my mind that...

I just offered a training on Spiritual Direction with Survivors of Sexual Trauma.  One in three women and one in six men will experience...

I met with my spiritual director the other day. My focus on was discerning what and where God is inviting me to join him. I just wish he...

I watched the movie “The Substance.”  Demi Moore plays a star named Elizabeth Sparkle who was noted for a hit show called “Pump It Up,”...

Last Monday at Phasing Out of Trauma meeting, Karen, retired MFT, led us in a practice engaging our little girl. This is like part-work...